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How Are Assumptions Hurting Your Relationship?

February 20, 2013

Gimme a “C” and what’s that stand for? “Communication”! Straight Talk 4 Women reminds us that bad assumptions can knock your love life for a loop – and you’d never see them coming. On a related note, bad assumptions are usually related to cognitive biases. They’re little booby traps in thinking that many of us have – little bugs in the brain’s natural programming. Many of the cognitive biases can hurt a relationship, too. “Confirmation bias” is present when we go around saying “all men are jerks” or “all women cheat”. “Hindsight bias” can make you feel like you must have been dumb not to have seen the breakup coming. “Framing” comes into play when we say things like “I must lose weight before I date” – neglecting that some dates just may not care if you’re a little chubby.

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Fake Profiles – Can You Spot The Phony?

February 20, 2013

Why, oh why, do people create fake profiles on dating, personal, and social sites? Some may do it just for laughs, and others might be out to scam you. But truly, most of them are just in it for the desperate need for attention. Might as mud face it, when any spectacular murder case has people running into the police station to confess just for the attention, creating a fake profile in a few minutes is small beer. So Love Trekker has this guide to spotting a ‘fishy’ profile. There’s a lot more attention drawn to this lately because an American “football” player (aka “hand-egg” player) recently supposedly got tricked with a fake girlfriend online… Or he made the whole thing up himself because, duh, attention and publicity! Anyway, now everyone’s starting to wake up to this weird little thing on the web.

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Warning Signs That You’re Dating A Major Psycho

December 19, 2012

“Don’t date crazy” is a typical admonition, but how do you spot one beforehand? We’ve all had the experience of finding out someone was less psychologically stable than we’d hoped. We’re not here talking about true mental cases, but just people whose potential disorders can shipwreck a relationship before it gets out of harbor. And relationships are a delicate matter, most affected by someone’s issues when they can still hold down a job and a reasonable place in society.

Anyway, don’t take any one of these for a total limit. But more than one on the list might be a reason to think about whether you want to keep on with this person.

#1. They’re tight-lipped secretive about their past – or even their present. Naturally, they don’t have to dump their complete biography at the first date, but a person who deflects all queries into their background may have something they don’t want you to know.

#2. Rampant substance abuse. A few drinks or even the occasional illicit substance is not what we’re talking about here. But somebody who is constantly drunk, drugged, high, or coming down is a reckless character and life with them, at the very least, will be a calamity – and should be checked into a drug rehab clinic such as www.sivanabali.com as soon as possible

#3. Their life is a constant soap opera. Some people attract drama like a picnic attracts ants. Everybody has a mishap, but the person who’s constantly flailing from one crisis to another has a life that’s skidding out of control – and it could very well be their own doing.

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Now How to Avoid Being Just Friends

February 26, 2009

According to the dating experts over at Aussie Babes, there’s a lot to love in this list of six signs you’ve fallen into the ‘friend zone’, but while we’re at it, why not try to find the point where we made the mistake to end up here, and then see what we could do differently? Follow along with the list, guys:

When your date mentions that she is seeing someone else: your mistake was in not making it clear that you thought of the two of you as being “serious”! In any case, when it gets this far, move to the dump stage. Try to end it gracefully and advise them to try;